Last weekend my daughter was involved in shooting a pilot for a kids TV show. If the pilot makes its way successfully through focus group testing, and is picked up by a broadcaster, it will air 32 episodes this summer. We are all very excited about this! And, spending the day with the 4 children chosen to be involved was a real learning experience for me.
It reminded me of the innocence that is lost in the transition from childhood to adulthood. Unfortunately, as we grow up, we also grow out of feeling comfortable with ourselves and our abilities.
Think about how we, as adults, often behave before we have a big meeting, important presentation or some event that is very important to us. I don’t know about you, but before a large speaking event, my inner dialogue goes something like this;
- What if I forget what I am supposed to say?
- What if I remember what I am supposed to say, but nobody wants to listen to me?
- What if I come down with the flu?
- I am so nervous. I just want this to be over!
Watching my daughter, before and during the filming, was a humbling experience. None of those 4 children lost any sleep the night before. Each of them had an appetite for breakfast, and they entered the studio feeling eager to jump in! They felt completely comfortable and utterly confident! They made friends with one another instantly and saw the entire day as one big adventure. I don’t believe one of them had any feelings that they would not be able to perform as required, were not worthy of being chosen for this opportunity, or that they might somehow fail. It simply did not enter into their minds. The kids all felt so good … and they didn’t need anyone around them to help with that.
What happens to us as we age? You know, the difference between that feeling of sure-footedness, confidence and eagerness – and that feeling of fear that seems to creep in. It is hard for us to remember confidence from a place of fear, or to remember exhilaration and passion from a place of fear. They are different vibrations.
We were eager as children and it was a wonderful feeling. So, why does it change?
It changes because, as we are growing up, we are often surrounded by others who have already forgotten that the way they feel really matters. There are so many rules and so many mind-sets about the way we should behave as children and, we are often faced with people ready to stand and judge us as children if we don’t jump through their hoops in the way they think we should. And unfortunately, this is often just to make them feel better.
As adults, we know what feels good. We know what feels bad. You can reach back to some of your earliest memories and remember that first gut-wrenching feeling that you got when somebody was pointing at you or calling you names. I imagine that many of us could sit down and make a list of those kinds of experiences, where, little by little, someone tried to convince us that we were not good enough. And, in every case, it was coming from someone who had already convinced themselves that they were not good enough.
So, the question you really need to ask yourself is “How can I become so entrusting of the Law of Attraction, and so aware of my own vibrational countenance (the way I feel), that I can get back to that place where I just expect well-being to flow to me? How can I feel like I did when I was a child?”
The answer is simple, though it takes practice. Just do it. I know I sound like a shoe commercial, but it truly is that easy. Every time you make the conscious decision to move past the fear and doubt and believe in yourself…you take one more step closer to the place where the eagerness returns.
That is exactly how the children I watched last weekend felt. They were still in that place of knowing well-being. They were in vibrational alignment with who they are, and they recognize a vibrational equivalent in each other. They were tuned in, tapped in, turned on, and appear to live in an unguarded environment where they are still able to follow their hearts.
I can hear your questions and doubt from here. Even in trying to learn to let go of the doubt and fear, you analyze the situation with exactly those emotions. You’re saying:
“Shouldn’t it be different?” I say, “No. It’s perfect.”
“But shouldn’t I have been stronger, and figured out a way to stay connected when others around me were not?” And, I say, “Your own guidance system (your emotions) is as strong as it ever needed to be. Your feelings are not controllers, they are guidance.”
“But shouldn’t I have been born into a better environment, with better parents, and more supportive teachers?” I say, “You would not be who you are if you had been and who you are is wonderful.”
“But shouldn’t it have been easier along the way?” I say, “Yes, but that was up to you.”
“But shouldn’t it be easier now?” and I say “Yes, but that is up to you.”
Remember, the best position to be in is to really, really want something that you believe you can have. Thank you, my daughter, and I look forward to watching you unfold!
Learn from the young ones who haven’t forgotten. What are they teaching you?